A pregnant polyamorous woman who has both a husband and boyfriend said her open relationship has actually helped strengthen her marriage.
Alexis Watts, 28, from Central Valley, California, met her husband, Christopher, at a swingers event following the breakdown of her first marriage.
She said she felt like ‘something was missing’ from her first relationship, so when she and Christopher, 35, got together, they agreed to date other people.
Now, the couple has been married for four years and is expecting their fourth child together in May – however, Alexis also has a boyfriend.
She has been dating the other man, whose name has been kept hidden for privacy reasons, for two years now – and she said the other romance helps her communicate better with her husband.
She claimed that her lack of monogamy has strengthened her relationship with Christopher, since her boyfriend ‘meets needs her husband can’t.’
‘I always felt as though something was missing in my first marriage. I had more to give and I was fighting polyamory,’ she explained.
‘I started swinging and met my husband where we spoke about polyamory and it was like magic, it just made sense.
‘My boyfriend meets needs my husband can’t. For example, he’s a therapist so we have deeper conversations.
‘In fact, we weren’t intimate for a very long time because our emotional connection was so strong.’
The mom-of-three, who works as a mental health therapist, wants people to know that polyamory is not about sex.
‘People think polyamory is about sex, but it isn’t, it’s about relationships and having more love to give,’ she said.
‘We’re not walking around in red heels and lipstick trying to take your partner, we only want consenting parties.
Alexis admitted that although she and Christopher do get jealous of their partners sometimes, the emotion has only ‘made them grow’ in the long run.
She shared: ‘We get jealous, we’re human and it’s a natural emotion. It doesn’t have to be a bitter and defensive emotion, it’s how you deal with it that’s important.
‘It’s made us grow as we learn how to communicate around it. It’s essential to identify what makes you jealous and what you need from your partner. It’s quite therapeutic.
Christopher is currently casually dating, but he doesn’t have a long term partner yet.
The duo stated that their family will always come first, and that they are not planning on having children with any other partners; although, they may have a ‘wife’ in their home at some point who they both date.
Alexis’ boyfriend is also married to another women, and both he and his wife have relationships with Alexis’ kids.
She added: ‘My boyfriend is involved in my kid’s lives but isn’t responsible for them, he’s more like a fun uncle.
‘Even his wife loves my kids and helps us look after them, she’s so excited when I bring them round.